I had a potentially difficult meeting the other day with someone who is extremely successful and who had very clear directions and opinions about Flying School.
I realised that I had a number of choices:
On reflection option 3 seems the most sensible, however in the moment, how do we make that choice? Often our default is the need to be right, therefore we close ourselves off to other ideas because it might threaten our confidence, or our place in the world?
One way of learning to think for ourselves whilst being open to learning is to start exercising our thinking muscle from as young an age as possible. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if our children no longer compared themselves to others but were open to learning from others whilst still thinking for themselves?
How do we help our children grow their thinking muscle and believe in their own ideas as well as being open to new learning?
We could consider:
The best thing we can do to help someone think well in our presence is to give them our full attention and be open to the fact that we could be wrong.
I think that children are so much wiser than we often think and perhaps we need to give them more opportunities to realise their thoughts are valued. What do you think?
If you are interested in learning more I would highly recommend books by Nancy Kline which include: Time to Think, More Time to Think, and Living with Time to Think, the God Daughter Letters.